Counseling

Most often, it is simpler for us to deal with the social homophobia rather than with the homophobia that we are personally filled with. It is safer to criticize that “external factor” which serves as “an official enemy” and objectively and obviously threatens and conveys these threats into action. Homophobia lurks within lesbians and is oftentimes substituted with the homophobia coming from the outside or if it becomes recognizable with the individual it is not “fashionable” (i.e. popular or politically correct) to directly open this topic with others, e.g. in the activists’ circles or in the lesbian community. It is a huge step from “the surrounding is homophobic” to “I am homophobic”. Sometimes girls and women start with “well, how can I be a homophobe if I’m lesbian” ascribing most frequently homophobia to those that are heterosexual.

Mirroring themselves in the existing lesbian scene here, a great number of girls and women try to realize their personal lesbian identity by joining the scene or staying aside. This is either because they remain unwilling to identify with the picture in the mirror, or simply because they do not know how to do this. They become faced with the overlapping of many important dimensions and often find themselves in sort of a dimensional whirlpool – all this in a very complicated social context already.